Monday, February 18, 2008

All men are flirts ?!

When I heard this sentence many years ago from a friend, I did not quite agree with it as I had always thought that devotion to a lover or spouse, which is quite natural for women, is a quality of many a good gentlemen. But down the lane of experience( of others as well as mine) I slowly started to gain more and more evidences for the fact which is disgusting to many a devoted wives. The saying " Virginity is a lack of opportunity" suits men the best.In an attempt to trace out the root causes of such a behaviour, I realized that the main reason could be the "outcome" of such a behaviour in the most basic sense. It is a plain fact that nature has given the arduous responsibility of bearing the off-springs to women and they are the ones who face the consequences of a relationship. Hence it is quite possible that men's psyche has evolved to look at man-women relationship as an enjoyment alone whereas women's psyche associates it with commitment and responsibility. But as we can see, these attitudes are quite primitive and those of men's is against the later and more evolved version of the society where the concept of "family" came in. One to one relationship is important for the integrity of the family which has many advantages in the social concept. Even the western world which has a very liberal culture, respects it. Hence,in my opinion, wise married men who want to preserve the integrity of the family should try to overcome their "primitive" nature and start respecting the one to one concept which will be a relief to their devoted wives.

P.S - This post was originally published as the author's comment to the post "Angels in the building" in the blog www.lunchgossips.blogspot.com. The author thanks Bala for granting permission for the republication

4 comments:

Jeya Balaji said...

seems like u r hoping to get to the "good" world. Would suggest u to read the book Selfish Gene - http://lunchgossips.blogspot.com/2008/02/selfish-gene_11.html

After reading the book, u wil understand that the world is going to be like the same ... with the gentlemen-till-they-get-chance.

swarna said...

thx for the comment Bala. Just thought that it was good writing hence this re-publication after more than a year. You know that my thoughts have changed in this one year.

Jeya Balaji said...

can u post ur changed thoughts? hope it wil b useful to me :-)

swarna said...

I do see that the "primitive" instinct is too strong to overcome